Breaking Up – How To Get Over A Break-Up

“Breaking up is hard to do,” as the (very) old song goes, and it’s true. Depending on which side of the fence you find yourself, breaking up can be a happy release or it can he absolutely heart-breaking. If you are on the “wrong” side of a break up, then this report is specially for you.

The first thing you have to know in order to get over a break-up is that you will not always feel like this. The pain and confusion that comes immediately after breaking up will go away. How soon the hurt does stop is largely up to you: you can be positive and strive to get on with your life (maybe even getting back with you ex), or you can wallow in self-pity. I strongly recommend you take the first course of action!

Everybody feels like you do now at some time in their life. The average person had four strong relationships during the course of their lifetimes (many people have many more!). This means that they will be involved in breaking up with partners at least three times – probably many more. My current partner and I have broken up twice, and we’re back together and stronger than ever. If you don’t want to get back together with your ex, that’s fine too, but you still have to get over all those negative feelings breaking up brings.

Immediately after breaking up, you feel confused, hurt and disorientated and your head will be whirling will all kinds of ideas and memories. This is natural but you really need to be able to think straight before you take any action. If you think you do want your ex back it is important that you don’t do anything until you’ve got your head back on “straight”. That is the first thing you have to do…

Breaking Up Advice #1: Do Not Act In Haste

You probably will not feel like talking about it, but you should try. Before you can get over a break-up you have to know how you feel inside yourself. Find a sympathetic friend and tell them how you are feeling. Explain what happened and how you feel: be honest about everything, though you may feel it wise to leave out some delicate or embarrassing incident if you want to. That’s up to you. But remember that the purpose of telling you friend is to “get it off your chest” and maybe even put things more into perspective for you. Do not feel that you have to take any of their relationship advice: that’s not the purpose of the exercise!

If you don’t have a friend you feel you can talk to about it, write it down. Don’t worry about spelling or grammar, or whether your writing is any good, just get the words down. The purpose of this is to help you get your own thoughts in order and maybe show you what really happened. It’s so easy to fool ourselves, especially when it comes to “matters of the heart”.

After breaking up, some people find that writing a letter to their ex helps. This is a letter that never should be sent, at least not in the form in which you write it. It is very important that you write it as you see it and that you do not temper what you say with thought for your ex’s feelings. In this “letter that will never be sent” explain exactly how you feel and what events led to you breaking up. If you get an uncontrollable urge to send the letter to your ex – don’t! Or, if you positively have to, do me a favor and wait at least a week before doing anything. Please!

Breaking Up Advice #2: Fill Your Day With Pleasure

After any relationship falls apart, it is quite natural that you will feel like sh*t. What you need are treats. By this I don’t mean buy the biggest box of chocolates or a pile of Big Macs and keep eating until you explode: binge eating is one thing you should definitely avoid. Every day make a conscious effort to bring pleasure into your life. Here are a few ideas:

• Music – take time every day to listen to lots of music. Not in a sad way that reminds you of your ex. Play happy music and have a little dance. Throughout the ages music has been proved to have a positive effect on people’s emotions and after breaking up, this is the kind of power you need!
• Exercise – no, I don’t mean start running marathons or even joining the gym – unless you want to. Play games or sports with your friends. Go dancing (that’s exercise!), go for an exploring walk somewhere you’ve always wanted to go.
• Vacation – maybe take a short break. A break after breaking up is usually good! (Just beware of finding someone on the rebound – it happens!)

Breaking Up Advice #3: Getting Back With Your Ex May Need Expert Help

A break up with a loved one can be one of the most traumatic, painful and devastating events in someone’s life. I hope this article helps reduce the pain and gets you back on track. It may be that you want to get back with your ex. Possibly you don’t know whether you do or not? Breaking up can be confusing and painful at the same time. What you need is expert help.

When it comes to all things “breaking up” I always turn to a respected expert in the field called Ashley Kay. She is particularly good at helping you get back with your ex. If you really want to make breaking up work in your favour by getting your ex back, then check out what she has to say:

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